Best Quotes from Dating Essentials For Men by Robert A. Glover with Page Numbers

"The world we have created is a product of our thinking. It cannot change without changing our thinking." - Albert Einstein

"What gets us into trouble is not what we don’t know. It’s what we know for sure that just ain’t so." - Mark Twain

"Your self-limiting beliefs keep you safe."

"How you think is how you are. What you think about and believe to be true is what you will create."

"A belief is a thought you keep thinking."

"Your mind strives for consistency; it finds plenty of evidence to support your beliefs and ignores information that is contradictory."

"In the next 30 days, I am going to meet three women who have the potential to be my Really Great Woman. They are available and looking for me."

"The self-limiting beliefs attached to your toxic shame are the number-one problem hindering you from getting what you want in love, sex, and relationships."

"Due to self-limiting beliefs, you don’t walk through open doors or take advantage of opportunities presented to you."

"Even though toxic shame is a purely emotional experience, you attach words and thoughts to this deep, uncomfortable feeling."

Your mind believes what your mind tells itself is true, and it is wrong more often than not.

Dating activates your self-limiting beliefs (SLBs) like nothing else.

Don’t look at dating as an attempt to get women to like you, sleep with you, marry you, etc. Look at dating as the most effective way imaginable to clean out all the distorted mental crap you’ve been packing around inside you since birth.

Dating helped me uncover my latent SLBs and overcome them.

Your words are a window to your thoughts.

When you do anything that challenges your SLBs head on, they will quit whispering at you and start SCREAMING at you!

You can take charge with your mind. You can take control of how you think.

You have the chance to become the most aware of your inner thought-talk and beliefs.

Your toxic shame, your self-limiting beliefs, and your outdated paradigms don’t have to drive the bus of your life.

It is in this 'stretch' zone of life that you have the chance to consciously challenge your SLBs (lies) and replace them with more accurate information about you, women, and the world in general.

"If every instinct you have is wrong, then the opposite would have to be right."

"Rejection doesn’t hurt. . . . but it is a great excuse to avoid facing the anxiety of talking to women."

"It is just what you tell yourself about the 'no' that messes with your head."

"The difficulty you have experienced with dating, relationships, and sex has not been the result of you being a worthless, unlovable loser."

"Your real problem is you will always act as if your SLBs are 100% TRUE!"

"Fear of rejection: the Queen Mother of SLBs."

"The guys who challenge themselves and consciously seek rejection always experience an amazing transformation in their love life."

"You might be short, bald, unemployed and live with your parents. That is not what limits you. It is what you believe about you that limits you."

"It became very clear to me sitting out there today, that every decision I've ever made, in my entire life, has been wrong."

"He decided to challenge his self-limiting beliefs. Surprisingly, by 'doing the opposite,' he ended up with a girlfriend and a job with the Yankees."

If you can’t see that you are already abundantly blessed, you won’t be able to see it if it is multiplied by 10, or 100, or 1000, or even a million.

Deprivation thinking makes it difficult to get what you want in love, sex, and relationship because it is difficult for you to see, and therefore accept, the abundance of the universe.

The world is an abundant place.

Abundance is not defined by how much a person has, but by how aware a person is of how much he has.

Abundance isn't a pursuit, it is a state of mind.

When you walk through open doors you change your core beliefs about yourself and the world.

The more you embrace abundance, the more you will see abundance.

I now walk through more open doors because I see them more clearly and I believe it is okay for me to experience abundance.

Every relationship is a miracle. Every time you leave your house and talk to another person, you open the door for the miraculous.

You live in an abundant world. Get out and enjoy it!

Thinking causes anxiety, acting cures it.

Your mind is like the boardroom of a large corporation.

Fear of Success: Success is scary.

Doing things that might lead to success will take your mind out of the old familiar neighborhood.

Managing anxiety keeps you stuck. Soothing anxiety sets you free.

The only remedy seems to be to keep searching for the one magic bullet that will turn your luck around.

Your dating frustration isn’t the result of not being good looking enough or women all being flakes. It is the result of being scared.

I can handle it is one of the most powerful self-soothing techniques you can use.

Stop thinking, start acting!

Anxiety is a part of life. It won’t kill you!

As long as you are growing and challenging yourself, anxiety will be a familiar companion.

We aren’t trying to eliminate anxiety; the goal is to learn how to effectively soothe it as you take bold action in life.

Your mind creates its own reality based on what it can imagine.

Visualize a woman you find attractive but have never interacted with in a direct way.

Instead of rerunning old scenarios of rejection and past failures, visualize success.

Most people don’t know why they do what they do. Most behavior is controlled by unconscious factors.

When you stop trying to figure out why people do what they do, your anxiety level will go down.

It is better to get into the batter’s box looking for a pitch that you can take a good cut at.

If you have nothing to fear, you appear and act more confidently.

Interacting with women trying to get rejected is one of the most effective ways I know to calm anxiety.

A woman’s greatest asset is a man’s imagination.

Women are nothing more than imperfect human beings!

When you clear out your distorted beliefs and take women down off the pedestal, you can actually have healthy, balanced relationships with them.

Most women want to be seen and judged for who they are – perfectly imperfect human beings.

Women consistently tell me that they want a man who will set the tone and take the lead – not just where to go for dinner, but in the relationship as a whole.

A healthy woman wants a guy who is real, honest, and confident in himself – not a perfect guy.

The more power you give a woman to make you happy, the more power you give her to make you miserable.

Women don’t fuck a man they have gotten to know. They get to know a man they want to fuck.

If you are looking for a woman to be the 'cake' of your life – to give you meaning, purpose, and happiness – you will always be frustrated and resentful.

If you want to find a girlfriend and/or sex partner, you have to hang out with women with whom these are realistic possibilities.

Beauty fades, but mean, moody, and entitled last forever.

Only a man with extremely low self-esteem would believe that having a young, hot, or beautiful woman would somehow give him worth, meaning, and value.

If you’re holding out for the 10s, you’re going to miss out on a lot of really cool chicks!

Beauty is only skin-deep.

You have put women on a pedestal based solely on their looks and not who they are.

You will always feel inferior and anxious around her.

Human attraction is based on so many more things than just physical features.

A mature man is also naturally attracted to a woman based on a number of characteristics, not just what is visible to the eye.

Choosing a woman who chooses you makes dating much more rewarding.

When you practice what I teach in Dating Essentials for Men you don’t have to chase hot women. Instead, you will naturally attract an unimaginable number of amazing women into your life.

A great woman is the icing, not the cake.

In order to naturally attract amazing women to me, I had to create an amazing life.

The better my life has become, the better the women have become.

You want a woman who has something going on!

Become what you want to attract. That’s the way it works.

Women are both security seeking creatures and sensual creatures.

The biggest mistake bad daters make is to assume women are just like them.

If you are looking for a woman to fill you up and complete you, you will never feel whole or happy.

Creating a great life requires you to daily observe and challenge your old self-limiting beliefs.

Maintain balance and stay differentiated. Remember, she’s the icing, not the cake.

"A lack of mojo... is probably a fundamental reason you have experienced frustration and rejection with women."

"Mojo empowers you to interact with women confidently."

"It is what gives you the backbone to walk away from the wrong woman."

"This lesson might initially frighten you, but if you are ready to get what you want in love and sex then it is time to grab your mojo and get busy!"

"Being nice to a woman is an overt attempt to win her approval."

"If you don’t care what a woman thinks about you, you can interact with her with a calm detachment that projects confidence."

"Confidence, status, power, and authority all activate their biologically programmed security meter."

"Wanting to have sex doesn’t make you a bad man."

"Women don’t fuck a man because they have gotten to know him, they get to know the man they want to fuck."

"If you really want something to be different in your life, you are going to have to do something different."

"God is in the details" – Ludwig Mie’s van der Rohe

"If you want to be a successful dater and naturally attract women, you have to pay attention to the details in every area of your life."

"Women are sensual creatures. They experience life through their senses – touch, sight, taste, smell, and with what they hear."

"Women are attracted to effort, confidence, potential, and attention to detail."

"If god is in the details, so is your Really Great Woman!"

"You can’t wait until you find a girlfriend to start paying attention to detail in your life."

"Every time you walk out your front door, look like you are going someplace important."

"When a woman comments on one of these accessories, I can tell her the story."

"Let your consultant help you make a list of things that you can add to your wardrobe over time."

"Be yourself. The most important aspect of style is being yourself."

"The internet is a great tool for meeting women and dating – a tool that opens many doors that might not ever open in the course of a man’s daily life."

"Dating is a numbers game and you are going to fail a lot more than you succeed."

"Successful daters know this. They persevere in the face of failure and rejection."

"If at first they don’t succeed, BDs often quit and never try again."

"I encourage you to lean into your anxiety. Try some new things. Take some chances. Take some risks."

"Effort = Success (effort is success)!"

"Creating my personal profile was a revealing process."

"The process forced me to decide what I wanted my life to look like, what I needed to change, what I needed to add and what fears I needed to face."

"Your profile doesn’t have to jump out at a woman, it just has to give her a little snapshot of who you are and do something to create a little buzz."

"Use enough effort to show you put some thought into it, but not so much that the woman loses interest."

"Practice makes perfect."

"You have to practice – a lot."

"The 12/12 challenge is great for men who have never dated much, who lack confidence, who need to practice dating skills, and/or who have been avoiding dating and need a jump start."

"Even if your mind is trying to talk you out of making such a commitment, do it anyway."

"Commit now. It doesn’t get easier to wait and make the commitment next week or the week after."

"The 12/12 helps bypass this because you can ask 'low anxiety' women."

"If the anxiety is reduced, you are more likely to go on more dates, be yourself, and have a chance to practice the skills you are learning in this book."

"Remember, every interaction you have with a prospective date is a test of her nature."

"The goal of healthy dating is to get to know the woman as she gets to know you, not to seduce each other."

"Most importantly, have fun. Laugh at yourself... Get back on the board and try again. You never know which wave will end up giving you the ride of your life!"

A woman can’t follow where a man doesn’t lead.

The major mistake that most Nice Guys and bad daters make with women is to interact with them passively.

In order to avoid falling into the 'friend zone,' you have to get to rejection as quickly as possible.

Setting the tone and taking the lead is not the same as being controlling, manipulative, selfish, or abusive.

A healthy woman wants a man who has a plan, who can make decisions, and who can communicate.

When a man fails to lead and set the tone, the woman feels unsafe, loses trust, and loses sexual desire.

Never let a woman dictate the terms of the relationship – ever!

Letting go of attachment to outcome allows you to lean into your fear of rejection.

Rejection doesn’t hurt!

Getting rejected starts to feel like a game.

Most men quit testing before a woman quits showing high interest.

If you have been a bad dater all of your life, I know this sounds impossible. But I promise you, once you understand how to test for interest, you will be transformed into a man who can get phone numbers within minutes.

Every interaction you have with a woman is a test of her interest in interacting with you.

A woman’s response isn’t personal. If a woman responds with low interest, you don’t have to figure out why, it doesn’t matter.

There is no middle ground, a woman has either high or low interest in interacting with you (don’t make this complicated).

Testing allows you to get to rejection quickly. You don’t waste time and money or miss out on the opportunity to test other women who might have higher interest.

It is such a relief to be able to: let go of trying to figure out how to say 'the right thing' to a woman.

Whenever you approach a woman, talk to a woman, flirt with a woman, or tell a woman to give you her number – you only have to pay attention to one thing – her interest level.

Your 'minor league' is the people you meet day in and day out. That is why you have to get out of the house, expand your route, linger in public, and talk to people everywhere you go.

Get out of the house and talk to people everywhere you go. Test, test, test. Practice, practice, practice. Most importantly, have fun!

"Testing for interest is the most effective way to get a woman’s attention and boost her interest level."

"Women need emotional tension for attraction and attachment."

"To be effective, testing has to be bold."

"Your goal is to get to rejection as quickly as possible."

"Don’t worry about the outcome. Don’t worry how she feels about your testing."

"Getting Unstuck at Level Three... Needing a woman’s approval is the biggest hindrance from moving from Level Two testing to Level Three testing."

"If you are willing to risk the loss of a few women thinking you are a great guy, you actually open the door to getting to know some really great women."

"When you boldly test at Level Three – when you require something of a woman – you project confidence!"

"Nothing a woman does is personal. Whatever her response may be, it is about her, not you."

"The biggest mistake most guys make is that they quit testing long before a woman stops showing high interest."

"Relax, take the lid off, and let the real you come out."

"Bantering and flirting are all about being yourself."

"You can’t wait until you see an attractive woman to figure out how you are going to test, banter, or flirt."

"Successful bantering and flirting require that you see yourself as a fun person."

"If you think you are boring and have no clue how to have fun, this will come across to women."

"You aren't trying to impress her, make her like you, or draw attention to yourself."

"When a woman meets you, only seven percent of her initial impression of you is based on what you say."

"The more comfortable and adept you become with bantering and flirting, the more opportunity you will have to connect quickly with a greater number of women."

"Playfulness and comfort with one’s sexuality are key ingredients of great sex."

"Practice, practice, practice. And, most importantly, have fun!"

How you date determines the kind of relationship you end up with.

If you don’t know what you are looking for, you will probably never find it.

This lesson will show you how to greatly increase your odds of finding what I call a 'Really Great Woman' (RGW).

The first order of business is to determine what you are looking for.

Never settle or 'date down.' Your RGW is a woman with whom you could spend a lifetime.

Every time you settle, you end up with exactly what you settled for.

You will wish she was different. You might live with mild regret for settling.

Finding your RGW is a numbers game. You have to meet and test a lot of women.

The information presented in this book is geared to help you create a full and interesting life.

Get out of the house, expand your route, talk to people everywhere you go.

"Being a good ender covers a multitude of dating sins."

"If I wanted to find a RGW, I had to become a better picker AND a better ender."

"Dating is a numbers game. You are going to meet a lot of wrong women."

"Being a good ender is essential in order to limit the amount of time you spend with women who aren’t potential RGWs."

"Being a good ender is the best dating insurance you can buy."

"Sooner is always better than later. It doesn’t get easier after two weeks, or two months, or two years."

"You are breaking up with her because you have low interest in continuing to date her because she does not have the qualities to be your Really Great Woman."

"Make a direct, powerful statement. Don’t be wishy washy or use wishy washy words."

"Breaking up is just one more facet of 'setting the tone' in a relationship."

"Knowing you can get out is one of the most important truths of successful dating."